never let them~

i actually wanted to blog about something else but then waking up this morning, i watched the 'Oprah Show' which talks about violence against women. this issue is a very serious issue as even in such modern days, you will never imagine such things exist but i remind you, it does happen. and it happens everyday, anytime even in country such as United States.



violence against women are crimes committed by either family member, spouse, boyfriend, acquaintance or even stranger that comes in form of physically, mentally and emotionally. sex abuses, forced marriage, trafficking women and children for forced labour and sex, women murdered for the name of honour. this are all types of violence against woman that we shall prevent. UNICEF and WHO are the international agencies working fighting against such crime. in malaysia ourselves, we have WAO (women's aid organization).


but despite having all this knowledge, there still many unreported cases..the reason i have no idea..one of the story that i remember from the oprah show was that the girl was constantly beaten up by the bf and to extent threatened to kill her. but she survived from the abuses and now the bf is in jail for hurting her.but she is pregnant with his child. the main concern is that will she be able to stay away from him when he come out from the jail knowing that she had his child.

but ladies, what you should know is that, love is great but you should have respect to yourself. never let anyone hurt you. and if they do, take all means to get away from them or have them reported to the police enforcement to avoid greater pain. if your bf or any guy friend ever dare to lay a single hand on you (*meaning like slap you or hurt you in serious way, not those playing/joking type) trust me this person is definitely not worth it. no matter how much you love him, you must get away from him now and fast. i MEAN it. think it this way, if he dare to slap you now, what makes you think so that he wont do it next time?? if he can slap you, what else he cant do later? he doesnt love you. because if he does, he will NEVER lay a hand on you..

im not femimism nor im a woman's right fighter but i do have respect to myself and i do believe that i deserve better than a person who hurt me in any way. i have consider myself fighting the rights for children because they are weak human being but i never thought about women. considering the fact that i only have one short experience being in relationship, im a nobody to ask you to leave or walk away from abusive partner but i do believe that we as a woman and of course, a human being should not be forced to do anything out of will. one girlfriend told me that the bf forced her to do something and as a friend (*she asked for advise,not that we are like sharing experience with men,dont misunderstand), i honestly told her that she doesnt have to obey/follow what he said.im not scared that she will hate me or angry at me for saying that (*knowing myself, im the type that speak whatever in my mind without thinking)

violence against women is a serious issue, boys and girls. and it is time for us to work against it to decrease it. i know it is not easy to do that especially if you are married to an abusive spouse. but it is for a better future and greater good. what if the next victim is your child.