the art of being single~

**note: the wording of the contents are not mine..so if i accidentally taken what supposedly belong to you, please inform me & i will edit it..i only mean to share it with everyone..the wording in red ARE mine & purely my opinion..feel free to disagree**

The Art of Contentment
For most of us, being single will be more of a phase than a final destination. This is the best place to practice the art of contentment. Someday, I’m sure most of us will fall in love and get married. But the thing is, love will always be tested. Someone more handsome,beautiful, more charming, richer, funnier, sweeter would come along. If you have not practiced the art of contentment as a single person, chances are you would be tempted to want that and not cherish your chosen one. Practicing the Art of Contentment as a single person means that you take what life gives you, good or bad, you’re willing to see it through. It means you don’t walk away every time things get tough because it builds in you patience, perseverance, understanding and a hundred different virtues that people in a hurry will never have. Being single means you would find how it feels to be alone thus, allowing you to cherish every moment you spend with your chosen one. The art of contentment means you wouldn’t mind if life had to make you wait for so long to find the love of your life, because you know that the waiting would only make the finding much sweeter.

-> i agree that somewhere along your relationship there is always a test, a challenge.. there will always someone who is more perfect than you to him/her or someone who is more perfect than him/her for you..

A Time to Know Yourself Better
Being single is a time of your life when you can get to know yourself better. You can pursue different interest and passions without having to ask another person’s approval. It is a phase when you can keep focus on other things, discover your potentials and talents, and see yourself become more than what you expect to be. Allow yourself to surprise you. Stop wasting precious energy trying to figure out why you’re still romantically unattached. It’s all in the mind. Take the time to go see your friends, spend time with your family, do charity work and you will realize that you are not, and never for one moment, was alone. Try to get to know yourself first before you try to get to know other people. To be truly loved means to be known and accepted for who you are. How do you expect other people to know you and to love you, when you don’t know who and what you really are?

->i totally agree 100% with this..being single especially after a broken relationship allows you to settle back, heals the love wound and making best of the time that you have..to think back what you really seek from a relationship, what you really want from a man and rebuild some bridge that you cut off when in some relationship..in my case, though my relationship with him failed but i gained back a good friend..we chatted back and start hanging back together because of this failed relationship..

A Choice Between Good and Best
Sometimes the dilemmas we face are not between what is absolutely bad and absolutely good. Sometimes, it’s between good and best. Treat this stage of your life as a phase to evaluate who is good for you and who is best for you. Sometimes, you won’t hear music, or feel magic to know who’s best for you. The heart just knows and it doesn’t need any romantically charged scenario to decide on the matter. Trust in your heart, and trust that time will eventually lead you to, not to the perfect partner, but to the most suitable partner for you. Being single is a phase of life that we need to be thankful for, because being single means our hearts have yet to choose the best one for us.

->hmm..to trust heart, to me always mean to trust one thing that have no eye, no ear nor mouth..which often lead to wrong decision.but i do agree that when single, we have the option and oppurtunity to mix with more people, broaden the horizon and thus allow us to have more choice..

Take Your Time, The World Will Wait
Being married doesn’t guarantee that it will make your life happy. It doesn’t guarantee anything at all. Sometimes, it only brings two miserable people together only to make their life even more miserable. Without the right intention, the emotional maturity, financial security and of course, unwavering love, you’re better off unattached.

-> i shall keep this in mind..maybe the age is gradually increasing yet this hand is always alone in cold and no warmth..looking at everyone around you holding hand and getting married, the loneliness kicks in once in a blue moon...

Living Life
Don’t put your life on hold for Mr. and Mrs. Right but don’t let it waste away with Mr.or Mrs. Wrong. Life is about things that you do and happen to you everyday. It’s not about the things that could have happened but never did, or things that you think would happen in the future. Live life now. Live it to the fullest and stop beating yourself up, trying to be perfect on a Saturday night date. Allow life to surprise you with it’s most wonderful blessings.

-> yeah, totally enjoying my day now..having fun here and there..but one person once told me "if you never try, how you would know that he is not right for you?? of course, sometime he might not be the one but there is always a chance to know if you try..if you do not try, you will never know"..but what he do not know is that im scared to start and in the middle of the road, i have to start back again right from the beginning. the feeling of starting all over again alone is intimidating and scary..the thought of when the road will end is endless..